Sunday, April 1, 2012

Don't Be SO Honest!

DISCLAIMER: I'm not fishing for compliments or trying to make anyone feel bad for saying any of these comments, just voicing my opinion.

I know this is 95% my hormones talking...but I'm just wondering:
What's up with people feeling like because you are pregnant they have the right to comment so HONESTLY about you/to you?

When I was pregnant with CJ and I gained 50 lbs. Yes, FIFTY. Pick your jaws up off the ground. HA! People would tell me "Whoa! You really POPPED this week!" or "Are you sure you aren't having twins?!"

This pregnancy I have gotten the opposite...
People like to tell me "You don't even look pregnant" or "You are SO small."

Okay people...
Don't you know that this is already SUCH a self conscious time for a woman?! To be creating/growing a human really isn't easy. Throughout both pregnancies I've thought at times "Am I too big/too small?" "Have I gained too much weight/too little weight?" I've compared myself to other preggos and worried I was a different or possibly the "wrong" size. THE LAST THING any pregnant woman needs is other people making her feel any more insecure than she already probably does.

My main point is that you wouldn't just walk up to someone who wasn't pregnant and start commenting about how big they look, or how tired they look. So DON'T do it to preggos!!!

This is what I tell pregnant people: "You look great."

I'll get off my soapbox now. ;)

1 comment:

Michelle D. said...

I don't know what is wrong with people. I think politeness and manners has hibernated for some reason or another.

And why do people think it's okay to touch a pregnant woman's belly? I would never say anything about a person's weight, pregnant or otherwise. And I don't touch tummies unless mommy gives permission or grabs my hand.

You don't look big! And I'm not saying this to make you feel better. You look like a healthy pregnant woman.